I've Learned
by Omer B. Washington

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.
I've learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don't care back.
I've learned that it takes years to build up trust
and only seconds to destroy it.
I've learned that it's not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.
I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you'd better know something. 

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do.
I've learned that it's not what happens to people,
It's what they do about it.
I've learned that no matter how thin you slide it, 
there are always two sides.
I've learned that you should always have loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you'll see them.
I've learned that you can keep going 
long after you think you can't. 

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
When it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don't know how to show it.
I've learned that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I've learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to
doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have. 

I've learned that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I've learned that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I've learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
I've learned that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do. 

I've learned that sometimes you have to put the individual
ahead of their actions.
I've learned that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.
I've learned that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves go farther in life.
I've learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours
by people who don't even know you.
I've learned that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help. 

I've learned that writing,
as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.
I've learned that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.
I've learned that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice
and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
I've learned to love
and be loved.
I've learned...

我发现
-- 奥马尔 华盛顿

我发现你没法使别人来爱你，你所能做的只是把自己变成能让人爱的人，剩下的就看别人了。
我发现无论我多关心别人，总有人不会对我报以同样的关心。
我发现有时信任的建立得用几年的时间，但却可以在数秒内灰飞烟灭。
我发现生命中真正重要的并不是你所拥有的一切，而是能与你共享这些的人。
我发现你能用你的风度和魅力混过前十五分钟，在这之后，你要是一无所知的话就别混了。

我发现你不该拿自己做到的去和别人所能做到的比，你应该拿它与自己如倾尽全力所能做到的相比。
我发现决定一个人的不是在她身上发生的事，而是她如何的去处理。
我发现一样东西无论被切的多薄，它总有两个面。
我发现你应该总是善待你所珍爱的人，因为那很可能就是你最后一次与他们在一起了。
我发现你总有办法让自己继续走下去，即使你早就以为自己走到了尽头。

我发现英雄是那些不顾自身结果如何，而在需要的时候去做必要的事的人。
我发现有人爱你深切，却总不知如何表达。
我发现有时我确实有我生气的理由，但那并不给我权利去恶待别人。
我发现真正的友谊不会被距离所阻隔，真爱也是一样。
我发现即使有人没有以你期待中的方式来爱你，那并不意味着她不爱你。

我发现无论多好的朋友，总会时不时有意无意地伤害到你，你一定要原谅他们，因为那不是故意的。
我发现有时仅仅原谅他人是不够的，你也要学会如何去原谅自己。
我发现无论你有多心碎，地球并不会为你的悲伤而停转。
我发现我们的背景和环境可能影响了我们的现在，但我们决定着自己的未来。
我发现两个人争吵并不表示他们不相爱，反之，两个人不争吵也不等于他们相爱。

我发现有时你有必要看人，而不是就事论人。
我发现两个人可以看着同一件事物而有截然不同的观点。
我发现无论如何，诚信的人总会在生命中有更多的收获。
我发现人的一生可能会在几小时之内变得面目全非，而造成这种改变的则很可能是与你素不相识的人。
我发现有时你会以为你已经无所给予了，但一旦有朋友来向你求助，你总能找到信心和能量来帮助他。

我发现写作和谈心一样，都可以帮你抚平感情上的伤痛。
我发现你生命中最珍爱的人，总会被过早地带走。
我发现有时你很难决定是不去伤害到别人的感情呢，还是去坚持你的立常
我发现了如何去爱或去被爱。
我发现...